"Where have all the gentlemen gone?" It's a question I've asked myself many times. That's the kind of man I want. A man who can lead. A man I can trust. A classy man. In a world that makes heroes out of vampires, werewolves, and fire breathing dragons, where are the Men?
The feminists took a wonderful and beautiful thing from us when they told our men that we didn't need them anymore. It was the feminist, and no one else who decided that woman was inferior to man. Chesterton in his book What's Wrong with the World says of woman's domestic calling:
"Woman must be a cook, but not a competitive cook; a school-mistress, but not a competitive school-mistress; a house decorator, but not a competitive house-decorator; a dressmaker, but not a competitive dressmaker. She should have not one trade but twenty hobbies; she, unlike the man, may develop all her second bests. This is what has been really aimed at from the first in what is called the seclusion, or even the oppression, of women. Women were not kept at home in order to keep them narrow; on the contrary, they were kept at home in order to keep them broad. The world outside the home was one mass of narrowness, a maze of cramped paths, a madhouse of monomaniacs. It was only by partly limiting and protecting the woman that she was enabled to play at five or six professions and so come almost as near to God as the child when he plays at a hundred trades. But the woman’s professions, unlike the child’s, were all truly and almost terribly fruitful."
Misunderstanding the meaning of equality, the feminists took away our womanly purpose and dignity, and replaced it with the questionable privilege of sharing the work world and having the almighty career. They liberated us into chains of masculinity. They refused to be treated with the special consideration that is due to womanhood, and our men took the hint. We have been treated like one of the guys. But there is good news.
Dominic de Souza of The Catholic Author in his post Not GENTLEmen, but gentleMEN says,
"Men aren’t only chivalrous because they should be, in an ideal world. They don’t rise above their natures just because it makes them feel better. Women EXPECT it of them."
In another post, Beauty Beheld, Mr. de Souza says the following of woman:
"She is attitude and soul, intelligence and intuition – a complete package. And she is powerful. She has power beyond imagining in her charm, attention and most often, her smile. A smile on a woman’s face is a solvent to melt the hardest wall. The power these glorious creatures hold seems insane. Men have struggled to understand why a determined, beautiful and principled woman can cut through any armor and touch his heart. Men don’t let anyone get in there, especially not other men. Our beating heart is usually surrounded by a wall of indifference, cynicism or defence.
"All of that is pure paper to a good woman, who can go right through our armor the way Christ walked through walls."
Colleen Hammond in her book Dressing with Dignity, says,
"Genuine, God-given, inner femininity appeals to men. It stirs up in them their genuine. innate masculinity and the desire to protect, revere and defend the gentle sex."
We have the ability to inspire men to greater and better things. Rather than ask where all of the real men are, we should look closer to home. We should look into ourselves and ask "Where have all the real Women gone?"
We ladies can do something about it. We can begin a counter cultural rebellion of our own. We can show the world that we don't have to be a slave to a career to prove our worth. It's time we realized that womanhood is a privilege, not a curse. Instead of competing with men, why don't we embrace our differences and try to compliment one another? Why not build them up instead of beating them down?
I want to be the kind of girl a man would die for. What about you?
